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Questions to Ask Before Marriage — Answer Both, Compare

Fifteen questions across the areas couples most often discover they disagree about after marrying: children, money, where you live, whose career moves, how involved the families are, faith, and what each of you does in a disagreement.

You both answer, separately, then it shows only the differences. Nothing is stored and nothing is sent to us — both sets of answers live in the page address, which is why you can share the result as a link.

What it covers

Children. Do you want children? If yes, how soon after marrying?

Money. How should money be held once married? Is your partner entitled to know your debts and salary in full?

Where you live. Where do you expect to live after marrying? Would you move countries for your partner’s career?

Work. After children, should both partners keep working?

Home. How should housework be divided?

Families. How involved should parents be in decisions you two make? Will you support parents financially?

Faith and tradition. How observant do you expect daily life to be? How should children be raised on faith?

Conflict. When something is wrong, what should happen?

Time and friends. How much time apart is healthy?

Lifestyle. Drinking and smoking in the home?

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