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Wedding traditionsGujarati Wedding Rituals: Gol Dhana to Mangal Fera
Gujarati weddings combine joyful garba nights with a ceremony that has its own customs — from the ponkhanu, when the bride's mother tries to catch the groom's nose, to the four mangal fera.
An overview
A Gujarati Hindu wedding (lagna) usually stretches over several days. Customs vary between Kathiawadi, Kutchi, Surti and other regional families, and between communities such as Patel, Lohana, Brahmin and Bania; Jain Gujarati weddings have their own sequence too. The bride traditionally wears a panetar — a white or cream sari with a red border, gifted by her maternal uncle — for the ceremony, and later a gharchola, a red or maroon sari with a gold checked pattern, from her in-laws. The steps below describe common practice.
Before the wedding
Gol dhana The engagement. "Gol" means jaggery and "dhana" means coriander seeds; a mixture of the two is distributed to guests. The bride and groom exchange rings and receive blessings from married women of the other family.
Chandlo matli The bride's father, or a relative, visits the groom's home, applies a chandlo (a red tilak) on his forehead and presents a matli — a steel pot holding sweets, coins and gifts. It is the Gujarati counterpart of the North Indian tilak.
Mandap mahurat and griha shanti A few days before the wedding, families hold a puja to bless the site where the mandap will stand, often installing a pole of wood or a manek stambh (an auspicious pillar). A griha shanti puja is also commonly held at each home to pray for a smooth wedding.
Pithi The Gujarati haldi. A paste of turmeric, sandalwood, rosewater and other ingredients is applied to the bride and groom at their own homes, usually by married women of the family.
Mameru The bride's maternal uncle and his family bring gifts for her — traditionally the panetar sari, ivory-style bangles (often today made of other materials) and jewellery — and also gifts for the bride's mother. It honours the bond between the bride and her mother's family.
Garba and dandiya raas Gujarati families hold garba or dandiya raas nights before the wedding — circle dances to devotional and folk music. These take the place of, or are combined with, a sangeet.
The wedding day
Jaan and ponkhanu The groom's procession, called the jaan, arrives at the bride's venue. The bride's mother welcomes the groom with aarti in the ponkhanu, and playfully tries to catch his nose — a gentle reminder that he has come to ask for her daughter's hand. In some families, the groom then breaks a small clay pot with his foot before entering.
Madhuparka The groom is seated in the mandap, where his feet are washed and he is offered madhuparka — a mixture of milk, honey and curd. The groom's shoes are often stolen at this moment by the bride's sisters.
Kanya aagman and antarpat The bride is escorted to the mandap, often by her maternal uncle. A cloth (antarpat) separates the couple until the muhurat, after which they exchange garlands.
Hasta milap and kanyadaan The bride's parents give her in marriage — see kanyadaan — and in hasta milap the couple's hands are joined, sometimes with a cloth tied around them, while relatives shower rice and flower petals.
Mangal fera and saptapadi The couple walk around the sacred fire four times in the mangal fera, often linked to dharma, artha, kama and moksha. The bride typically leads the first three rounds and the groom the last, though families vary. The couple then take the seven steps of the saptapadi. See mangal phere.
Sindoor, mangalsutra and kansar The groom applies sindoor and puts on the mangalsutra. The couple then feed each other kansar — a sweet made of wheat, sugar and ghee.
Chero pakaryo The groom tugs at his mother-in-law's sari end, asking for gifts, and she gives him something in return — a playful acknowledgement of his new relationship with the family.
After the wedding
Vidaai The bride says farewell to her family. In some Gujarati families, she throws rice over her head as she leaves; see vidaai.
Ghar nu lakshmi and aeki beki At the groom's home, the bride is welcomed as Lakshmi. She tips over a kalash of rice and steps in. The couple then play aeki beki, in which a ring and coins are dropped into a pot of milky water and they compete to find the ring — whoever finds it more often is teasingly said to rule the house.
Practical tips
- Book a garba group and musicians early in the wedding season.
- Coordinate the panetar from the maternal uncle and the gharchola from the in-laws, so the bride knows when to change.
- Prepare kansar in advance, and explain chero pakaryo and ponkhanu to guests from other regions.
Fixing the date?
The muhurat calendar lists every auspicious wedding date month by month, with the hours each one holds.
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What is gol dhana?
It is the Gujarati engagement, named after the jaggery and coriander seeds distributed to guests. Rings are exchanged and the couple are blessed.
What is the ponkhanu?
The bride's mother welcomes the groom with aarti and playfully tries to catch his nose, reminding him he has come to ask for her daughter.
What is the difference between panetar and gharchola?
The panetar is a white sari with a red border from the bride's maternal uncle. The gharchola is a red or maroon checked sari from her in-laws.
What is kansar?
Kansar is a sweet made of wheat, sugar and ghee, which the bride and groom feed each other after the ceremony.
What happens in the mameru ceremony?
The bride's maternal uncle and his family bring her the panetar sari, bangles and jewellery, along with gifts for her mother.
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